Thursday, February 21, 2013

You are what you listen to

Yesterday when I was browsing through Pinterest looking for ideas for my blog I came across this image:

Link to this image is here.

When I first saw this image I just saw the words and thought it related to something completely different than what it is supposed to relate to.  I took this to relate to us listening to ourselves and what our brain might tell ourselves. I think there is a great hidden meaning behind this. I struggle sometimes telling myself good things about myself or things that I have accomplished and instead focus on the things that I don't do right.  My husband and I have this thing that we do when we may have done something wrong or done something that might upset each other. This thing that we do is calling ourselves terrible.  For example if I spent too much money one month and my husband started talking to me about it I would automatically say, "I am sorry I am such a terrible wife."  We have been doing it for so long that I have actually started feeling that I am a terrible wife and that I can't seem to do anything right.  If I were to change that sentence around and say: "I am sorry for spending so much money, I will work harder next month to control my spending habits."  It may not have as negative of effect as if I said it the first way. If we are constantly listening to us calling ourselves negative names or focusing on things that we could be doing better in our lives it could lead to negative feelings and thoughts.  

So my goal for the rest of this week and beyond is to focus on telling myself that I may not be perfect but I am a pretty awesome person! Hopefully by doing this I can change my way of thinking and I can be happier a happier person, not only on the outside but also on the inside.  

May we keep the quote in our mind from the book and movie The Help: "You is kind.  You is smart.  You is important."

4 comments:

  1. You are NOT a terrible wife. Derek is NOT a terrible husband. What we feed our subconscious is what we end up believing so good for you to tell yourself that you are a pretty awesome person--you are! :) In fact, you and Derek should try this each morning an night. Write down a few positive affirmations (I refer to them as "I AM" statements)on 3x5 cards or something you can easily go through. They could be, "I AM spiritually in tune", "I AM in control of my life" "I AM smart, funny and charismatic", "I AM financially free and independent", "I AM living my best every day"... The point of these isn't that they already are, but that you state them in the present tense as if they already were. Read these every morning and night several times. You'll notice that the way you think about things changes. The way you think about yourself changes and the way you ultimately behave--changes. This is because the subconscious doesn't know what's imagined or real--it just takes the input we feed it and then that tells our conscious what to think and better yet--what to do and how to do it. The more we feed positive into our subconscious, the more we experience positive--even miraculous changes in our life. Thanks for sharing! :) Oh, this is Marshyl BTW.

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    1. Marshyl!! Thank you so much for your post. You are correct and that is a great thing to try out. Derek and I will be doing this and hopefully things will change! Thanks again for your great input! Keep it coming!!

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  2. I am totally guilty of this too. I think sometimes we just speak before we think, so stopping ourselves mid-sentence to rearrange our words in a better, more complimentary way is a really hard thing to do. However, I think that if we are to ”train” ourselves to do so then we can truly conquer anything. Thanks for the reminder Kristin.

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  3. I never thought of how true this is! When I do something wrong I tell myself I am terrible too.. and then sometimes I think I am! Thanks for the great post and for linking up today!

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