Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Stop Pretending to be "Fine"

Have you ever been asked the infamous question "How are you" and you respond with "Fine" when inside your heart is screaming out that it's not fine and that your not okay?  Have you ever wanted to scream out to the world that you are broken, frustrated, overwhelmed and not okay one bit?  If so, then this post is for you.

On my favorite show that I always talk about, Studio 5, they had a segment a couple of weeks ago called 'Stop Pretending to be 'Fine''  I really enjoyed this segment because it spoke directly to me.  Whenever someone asks me how I am doing I always put a smile on my face and say "I am fine" or "Good" when really I am having the hardest time.  But sometimes I am afraid of spilling my guts or complaining about things in my life that may not seem like such a huge deal to them. One thing that Julie de Azevedo Hanks said in this segment is to 'asses the relationship.' If anacquaintance asks you how you are doing you might respond differently than if a family member or close friend asks you how you are doing. I always try to sound happy and act like nothing is going on but sometimes I just let it all out to family and it has actually helped sharing somethings with them. I have a wonderful sister-in-law that has helped me through some dark times. She has been in these situations before and she has really helped me out. It's nice when you finally let out how you really feel and you find out that they have been through the same thing and share with you what helped them overcome that situation.

The last thing that I liked from this segment was when she talked about being brave. She says; "What will I gain if I share my real self with others? It takes courage to be real and share your struggles, but the payoff is worth it. Closer relationships, more emotional support and help are just a few of the benefits of sharing more of yourself with others. I hope this is true because that is why I started this blog. For the longest time I always felt like I was the only one going through some of the struggles I am going through but then a couple of weeks ago I found out that I wasn't the only one out there and that there were many others going through trials like me.

Since I am talking about being brave and sharing how you really feel, I would like to share with you what I am going through right now. This is a little hard for me to talk about but I can't overcome my feelings if I don't share them. I suffer with major insecurity. I always feel like what I do is never good enough. I was not an A student like my brothers, I am not amazing at sports like my brothers, or popular like them. I don't have children, and suffer from spending too much money and in result with debt. I don't have a lot of friends and feel like it is really hard for me to make friends. I feel like I have all of these great things in mind for me and can see where my life would go but then when I try to get there I just fall short and can't complete them like I thought. Maybe I just set my goals too high for me to complete, whatever it is, I would like it to stop so I can feel accomplished. Have you ever felt this way? If so, how did you overcome these thoughts and feelings? How have you succeeded in something that you really wanted to accomplish? If you want, take a minute to share some ideas, I would really appreciate it! Thanks for letting me share my true feelings! Until next time!





Inspired Tuesday

7 comments:

  1. Kristin! I am so proud of you! I love your blog and love seeing you be so brave and courageous! What a fabulous idea to put all of your thoughts and feelings into a blog! I love it! It's so cool to see you grow. :) You are such a beautiful person! Love you girl!

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    1. Thank you so much Amber! You are such an inspiration to me and have helped me so much I really appreciate it! Love you!!

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  2. Hey Girl!!!

    Can you shoot me an email and I can get you into the Bigs Littles Network!!

    Kaitlyn (:

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  3. First of all I just love your design. You did a great job with it! Second of all, what a great post! I am insecure all the time. It's a constant battle with negative self-talk, but sometimes you just gotta fake it till you make it. That's been my motto! All you can be is you. So people can take it or leave it. FOr me, I moved A LOT in my life and sometimes making new friends and putting yourself out there can be super scary, but no risk no reward right??? When I was in Hawaii for a year with my now husband (who was deployed at the time) it took a while to make friends, but I took tennis lessons, joined an adult kick ball team…just got involved and eventually I made a ton of friends. You are on the right path…starting a blog is super brave of you! The girls you meet through this forum are very supportive and tons of fun! I'm glad you have joined the community!!!

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    1. Julie! Thank you so much for your wonderful comment! I don't know how you move so often. And to just leave your life and start on in Hawaii is brave. That's interesting that you say you moved to Hawaii. Did you enjoy living there? My husband and I have been thinking about moving there so that my husband can pursue his dream job. Thanks again for stopping by! I love your blog!

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  4. This is such a wonderful and honest post. Perfect for Inspired Tuesday. Thank you for linking up.

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